Tuesday, April 26, 2011

My 2 cents...

Over this Easter break i have had some more time to do some of the things I Love. Spend time with family and friends, to cook, to sew, and to 'read' blogs...
I read Jennifer's blog post and Rachel's about being real, followed by this post then this one ....and then a discussion going on over at whip stitch.... YOU. CAN. SEW.  I felt compelled to add my 2 cents.


I tend to live in a bubble in my house. We don't watch the news, read the papers..As far as the world going on around me??? I only over hear bits and pieces of conversations.. just enough to make me glad i don't hear the news constantly. It effects me. There is enough heart ache and sadness amongst our friends and families that who can cope with the added burden of world problems.

So reading about the discussions going... I felt compelled to add to the discussion and write my thoughts.


Whats so hard about being nice??
 Whats so hard about being supportive, happy for someone else?

Jennifer's post was all about Dumbing down Quilting... Traditional vs Modern... Can anyone really be bothered causing a fuss? Don't we have enough on our plates to worry about if Modern Quilting is wrecking the tradition? It wasn't the fact that i was offended by the topic I was moved to write because it was just another time when someone is being critical of someone else... Who has enough energy at the end of the day to complain and cause trouble...??

I think we forget that we are all women. Were all the same. WE all have the same worries and fears. We worry if we are measuring up. If were doing a good job raising our children, If were spending enough time teaching them, loving them, to raise them into well rounded human beings.. We juggle the daily chores of cleaning a house, washing clothes, some of us working full time. We juggle the school run, the afternoon activities, taking the kids to their sporting practise, the dinner and bed time routines and barely make it through the day to wake up and do it all again the next day.  We worry about if we look good in our clothes, should we exercise more, or eat less. Should we go help that person who is in need, should we lend a listening ear to our friend who is upset. Should we invite the new neighbours over for dinner? Do we do enough for our husbands and work on our marriages. Do we sew/blog too much? Do we need more/less time for ourselves? Did we make the best Easter hat this year and what about our kids reading.. Are they learning their words for school? What about our bills? We stress over Financial trouble. Are we giving to the children, but not giving too much... Are we good mothers, wives, friends? The list really is endless... I could sit here and write for hours.. the things women think about constantly throughout the day..

On top of all these worries and fears... WE also have 'REAL'  problems that we face daily. Are we suffering with depressions? Anxiety? Troubles in our marriage? Are we grieving? Are we struggling financially? Are we searching for happiness?


So, the timeless question is......

Why cant we just band together as women??
Why cant we love and support each other? Is it really that hard?
We ALL have the same problems....the SAME fears, the SAME worries, the SAME heartaches.

Why cant we be happy for our neighbour or friend when something good happens in their life instead of trying to compete to be one better? Why are we in a society of competition? To be the BEST the better wife, the better mother, the better friend. Why cant we be genuine? Why cant we let others see the REAL us. I think things would just be so much easier if we all let our guards down and were genuine and actually contributing to the conversation by explaining the REAL you. I think we could offer support and love for each other. I think we could really learn from each other. We could really help each other. Offer genuine love, guidance, support.

I have kept this blog a little out of reality so to speak.. Not because I didn't want each of you to see the 'real me' but because i needed something not associated with the 'real me' to keep me going. I needed a place that i could think about something other than families, children, being a mother. I needed a part of my day to escape the 'real life' something to keep me busy so that i didn't have time to think.

I found that in sewing, In designing quilts, writing patterns, about the next new fabric line, reading blogs and sharing in something someone is making.

Real life for me is hard. It is a struggle. Its hard to get up each day, Its hard being surrounded by everyone pregnant and having babies.  Its hard leaving the house and its hard being home. Its hard having tons of spare time when i should be busy holding a baby. Its hard smiling and talking to friends who talk about pregnancy, babies and children. It's hard being happy when I'm dying inside. Its hard counting my blessing when i cant forget what i have lost.

Life is hard... It is really really hard. But sewing has helped. It has given me something fun to think about. Something totally unrelated to real life. I have found a happiness and joy from sewing. I started a blog to keep me busy, to be able to share what i love to do. To sell my quilt patterns, to be apart of an online community. And now, to teach.. To help others find joy and happiness in sewing...

So many people email me and ask why i am not charging for these quilt classes. And the reason is.... I cant. I don't want to. Its more than that... These Quilt Classes is my way of giving back... what blogs and sewing and quilting has given me. I want to be able to teach women and mothers like me... Who need something to help them get through the day.  Something to give them a little joy and happiness. Something they can do to escape. Something they can do for their own sanity. Maybe sewing isn't you things.. Maybe its painting, drawing, cooking, making,... Whatever it is....?? I just have a skill that i can share. I have learnt how to sew.. and its so so easy I want to be able to share it with others. Teach what i know. I'm not a qualified quilter, teacher, seamstress... but i just love sewing. And in helping and teaching... its helping me.

In regards to the discussions HERE... Anyone can sew. Who cares what it looks like, if its not technically perfect, if the colours or fabrics aren't right. Who cares if you change a pattern or its a simple block.. If you love it and it brings you happiness... then that's all that matters.

This blog post is a little scary for me..Its a little 'real' and I'm usually the quiet type who just smiles and then goes home and has a massive debrief with my hubby! But i really felt compelled to write and voice my 2 cents... which is probably more like 75 cents worth!! That we just need to remember, that we are all women. We have ALL the same dramas, problems, concerns... that we should be that better friend that helps and loves.. and is genuine. Wouldn't life be so much easier if we could all just be genuine and real.

And i just want to say Thank you to all of you. For all of your lovely comments and emails. I don't get to thank you enough.. I probably wouldn't blog if i didn't have anyone reading. I try and reply to all of you.. Sometimes life gets in the way... But i love each and every comment and it really helps me... helps me to have the strength to keep going.  xxx I hope you had a wonderful Easter with your family and friends, Love Bec  xxx

72 comments:

  1. Thank you for your blog! I know how you feel and so agree. I have lost all my potential children to cancer and now 6 years after they were cut from my body I still grieve and yes feel jealous at times but also try to find the joy in the sweet pictures of babies. Blogging is a real connection for me with people who think like I do. I was also briefly on my soap box about the who so called 'dumbing down' of quilting. Well as I started quilting because of my Grandma who must of been the original 'dumb quilter' because she never made anything complex or meticulous. She just made with necessitiy and love. Yes it is too slippery in hate land I like to live in the peaceful loving land of unreality I guess.

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  2. (((Rebecca))) I'm sorry things are hard for you. I can't imagine what you've been through. I so appreciate your enthusiasm, your gorgeous patterns (I'm going to make your curlicue quilt as soon as I have time), and this huge undertaking of the quilting classes. Thanks for all you do!

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  3. Good for you! Unfortunatly there are many people in this world who seem to think their way is the only way and if you do not conform you are wrong!
    What is wrong with live and let live as long as while going through life you make every attempt possible not to hurt another being!
    As to quilting (sewing) as the great healer, I have lost 2 children in my life one to sids when he was 3 months old, and another who was 14 when he died after being injured in a school bus hijacking. I tried many things after the death of my children to find some peace or pleasure in life. It was not untill I discovered quilting (sewing) that I was able to do so. It will be 17 yrs since my 14 year olds death this week. I have taken 3 days off from work and intend to spend them locked away quiting! It helps me cope and survive these anniversaries of pain and turmoil. As far as I am concerned there is no one in this world who has the right to even imply that my method of coping is improper. In the same respect there is no one in the world who as the right to belittle anyone elses form of self expression be it quilting, painting, or any other medium they choose to use.
    You are a very talented young lady who has learned to make her adversity into something positive,I congratulate you. Untill reading your post today I had never read your "how it started" part of your blog, now that I have I would like you to know that my heart goes out to you and your family, and if it is alright with you I will keep you in my prayers, with the hopes that you and yours will continue on your journey of healing.

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  4. I agree with so many things you said but I want to focus on this...You are right, Life.Is.Hard!!! and with all that is going on in our everyday lives why expel the energy to be negative and/or mean. I personally don't have the time or energy for that. I would much rather be a blessing to someone! Hopefully make them smile if only for a moment. Thanks for sharing all you did. I enjoyed your honesty!

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  5. We lost a grandchild to SIDS four years ago. That was a very hard funeral. My step-daughter and her husband clung to each other and got through it. Hope you can making it through your tough times. I enjoy your tutorials and teaching. Keep up the good work.

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  6. Rebecca, just because we are women doesn't mean we all have the same experiences. I've never had children, so all those stories about other people's children are irrelevant and uninteresting to me. We are individuals who have individual experiences in this world.

    All we can do is live our lives the best we can and maybe make a small difference to another few people. Enjoy your sewing, Rebecca and do it the way you want to satisfy yourself. Don't let other people label you, because you are unique. Best wishes.

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  7. Well said Bec !!! Here's a great big HUG from me to you. That must have been hard to do.
    I agree with everything you wrote. It's not for someone else to say how good or bad a quilt is,everyone does it for their own reasons, and if they can't say something nice don't say anything at all. We should be supporting one another because, as you suggested, who knows what lurks just beneath the surface.
    Thanks for being so nice :-)

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  8. Hi Rebecca, I stumbled upon your blog and it's on my favorites bar so it's handy to read every day! I totally agree with you about what you wrote. I've read some of the dumbing down posts and just keep on quilting the way that makes me happy.
    You are right life is hard and has it's challenges. I didn't quilt much for about a year due to a friendship loss that was centered around quilting so that was hard. But I've recovered and moved on and quilting is where I find I'm centered and it provides a stress relief for me from my day job.
    I think it's great that you are providing some lesssons that have no cost associated with it. It feels good to give back and reach out. Lots of people are stretched very thin these days and find it hard to afford fabric let alone take classes.
    Thanks for keeping it real!
    Laura T (Redmond WA)

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  9. I admire the way you cope with your sorrow, and keep going, giving joy to others. Keep on going. A big hug to you and a big thank you for sending a ray of light everytime you post.

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  10. There are so many things in this post that I want to say "hear, hear!" to. But the part that "resonates" most with me is the idea that my blog can be my little place to NOT have to write about all the bits of my real life, just about the bits that I want to share with people and inspire people with. Even on a tough day, I can write about something I love doing and want to share with others.

    I only found your blog recently, but I can tell I'll be reading it more. Thank you!

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  11. I saw a great quote on Miss Print's blog:

    Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best. -Henry van Dyke

    There is room for everyone....you don't have to be THE best, but just enjoy learning and doing YOUR best. It all makes the world a little prettier. Celebrate that, and eachother :)

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  12. Rebecca, you are wonderful. This was a beautiful post, and I am so glad that sewing brings such happiness to you. You are an inspiration.

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  13. Bravo Rebecca! Great post!

    It appears we all use our creative time as a form of therapy!

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  14. I want to hear your two cents more often Bec! Carli x

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  15. Rebecca, Amen and amen. I have been thinking about you frequently over the last week and meant to write to you. I am so sorry that the grief is still so raw. Life can be hard but we can do hard things. You come from strong stock. I wish we could sit down and talk face to face - there is so much we could share. Please know that there are people that do understand the grief and that although it is a sad sisterhood, we also have joy. Thanks for your passionate post and thanks for the real-ness of it. Bravo to you.

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  16. Thanks for sharing! I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. And praying for you as you continue to heal from your loss . . .

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  17. My mom taught me how to sew when I was little. Quilts were usually made as a gift & they were made with nothing but loving intentions. They weren't made to be criticized about over petty ideas someone else decided was correct. They should all be appreciated. My favorite quilt was made by my Dad's godmother as a wedding present 37 yrs ago. It's a crazy quilt, and it lives up to the name. Most people would probably think it's ugly, but all I can think about is this little white haired lady, sewing together mismatched scraps of everything she owned for a person she loved. It she'd made a quilt that was perfect, I wouldn't look at the bright green thread she zig-zagged stitched some areas with and think of her.

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  18. I think it's awesome that you are doing quilt classes for free. It has made me really interested in quilting and now that I am getting my craft room in order, it's the perfect time! All this drama though makes me weary of it, since most of my info/inspiration comes from blogging. Also, half the stuff anyone talks about seems way advanced and over my head. :o/ I never thought there would be drama over quilting! LOL

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  19. woah...nice. i wish european women could learn to be more like african women..always embracing and touching and loving the other. never competetive, or jealous, or conniving or manipulating. like it was in the very beginning. peace with you little peacemaker ! xoxolove , angelina

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  20. I ♥ this post. Thank you for being real. (((HUGS)))

    Your sewing classes are a great help to this newbie. Thank you.

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  21. I'm here from your comment on Whipstitch. Sending some hugs to you after just reading your story. For me quilting is a way to deal with any number of emotions and struggles. A lot of times it's a chance to pray for my friends and for my little niece who's sick. It's a chance to occupy my hands when my heart is not able to handle what life has given us. I can rejoice over the happy parts and cry over the sad ones - in life and in sewing. Unfortunately life doesn't have a seam ripper. Sewing can help to keep us sane. I like the movement of building up fellow sewers. Keep it up! :)

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  22. Dear Rebecca,
    Thankyou for yoour blog and lessons.I cannot ease your heartache, but share with you the release sewing gives you as you deal with ongoing life.
    Since my youngest son died suddenly in January 2010 at age of 15 years, sewing has been an important stress-relief valve for me. Even when creativity deserts me, simple sewing tasks are a good distraction. Please know that there are many people inspired by your thoughts in your blog and also your tutorials

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  23. Your 2 cents is priceless!!!!
    I was just talking with a friend about quilt blogs and saying whats missing are pics of the quilts that were so bad they couldn't be saved so they were tossed out or cut up and made into something else :) I want to see them, I want to learn from them and I want to rejoice over them!!!!!!
    Thanks Bec

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  24. Thanks for adding your 2 cents. Quilting has gotten me through a lot of rough times (and I also added my 2 cents on my blog today too!) I think we too often forget there is a real person who has written the blog post we are reading, with real "stuff" going on. This was a great reminder of all the things we DON'T know...

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  25. Your 2 cents are priceless!!

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  26. Thank you so much for this post. I am new (again) to sewing. I taught myself to sew about ten years ago and then after I became a mom, I stopped. I just didn't have time with twin girls to raise while my husband was deployed. Now after so many years and four children later (my youngest is eleven months) I have started sewing again. I have yet to make a quilt but it is something that I want to try.

    I am so excited about your quilting 101 class and what it is teaching me! My sister in law is an amazing quilter but she told me that I couldn't quilt until I purchased a really expensive (way out of my price range) machine so I gave up even wanting to try it. Your classes and blog is giving me hope that, yes, I can try this craft and enjoy it! So, thank you for your 2 cents.

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  27. I really agree with you Bec. It is so important as women that we band together, support each other and embrace our similarities and differences - whether that is with quilting or other aspects of our lives. Sometimes I feel so inadequate in many ways and need to remind myself of who I really am. You and your kindness and your blog have really enriched my life and I want you to know that I am very grateful. Thinking of you and praying that your days will get easier. Much love XOXO

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  28. Thanks for your two cents Bec, we should not even be having this whole dumbing down/who's the best/what's the right way to sew conversation. If someone doesn't like anothers blog/sewing then they should take Thumpers mum's advice and "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all!". Or maybe just stop reading the blog/site that's offending.

    I sew because I enjoy it, as do most people. And I reckon that no matter the reason for sewing (hobby, distraction, keeps you sane) and no matter the skill level, if you like it then do it! We CAN be supportive of one another and it's great that you reminded us all!

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  29. I have not kept up with the dumbing down discussion at all, but my first thought is---who cares? For me, quilting is about joy, creativity, and relaxation. If my quilt makes me happy, I really don't care if it isn't perfect. And if other people don't get that, that's their problem, not mine.

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  30. First, hugs to you! Second, thank you for sharing your very valuable opinion. I agree with your frustration of trying to understand why we can't get along - but at the same time, I know and see the insecurities of most women now days and for them to feel better/stronger about themselves, they feel the need to make others feel small. Very sad. Keep in mind why you sew/quilt/teach/share your blog. Remember it's for you, not no one else. People will be people.

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  31. Thank you!!!!! You've put into words what I have thought about the past few days.
    I blog, too because I love to sew and just hope to inspire someone else to take out their machine and make something. It doesn't have to be what I make or anything like it.
    It also gives me time to be creative and kind of forget about all the other mundane tasks for the day. I guess it's my little bit of fun. :)
    I totally get that you need something not associated with your 'real life'. I'm that way, too.
    Hugs to you! :)
    ~Jessica

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  32. Good morning Rebecca..and thank you for this post. I completely agree with you on this matter. I am an older more traditional hand quilter; but not because I don't like the modern work; I love it. It is what I was brought up with. But through the blogging; I am learning so much more...and loving every minute of it. I just wish I had more time to do everything I would like to do..really.... keep it up girl!!

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  33. I think we sometimes suffer from "Martha Stewart" complex. What most people forget is that she had a staff of minions and edits on her shows. NO ONE IS PERFECT. Quilting is a constant learning process and it should be an enjoyable one. I know my weaknesses (love the piecing process, can't quilt worth beans) but have fun anyways. My quilting buddies are my best friends and we have an active web of support. We rejoice & grieve together. Thank you for reminding us that we're human.

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  34. Thank you for sharing and for leading me on a journey through quilting. It takes courage to be genuine and honest.

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  35. I think more and more women are coming to this middle of the road and not so divisive. When I first starting quilting in the 1970's-there were definite camps of hand work vs machine, art quilts vs traditional-now it is much better about appreciating each other's work!

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  36. I'm grateful to have read your blog tonight. I'm so happy you have your quilting Bec and to see that you can get lost in your beautiful creations! You are so talented and so many woman get so much from reading and learning from you!
    Thank you for being the woman and friend you are to me and so many! love you! Ali xxx

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  37. Rebecca,
    This blog post was VERY well said. I feel exactly the same way about modern verses traditional. I've been sewing since I was a child and love it but feel it's not good enough sometimes. I see so many people cranking out so many quilts, clothes, whatever that I begin to feel I don't do enough (silly, right?) or don't do it right.
    Thanks you so much for being so honestly brave to speak your heart!

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  38. You know, if women could just support each other we'd take over the world! Think of the changes we'd see then! But I guess it's not in our nature. Sigh.

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  39. Yes!!! Right there with you. There is so much else going on in life, and no one gets out of it without a struggle. We should at least be permitted to enjoy our quilting, however we like it!

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  40. I completely agree with you! Life is hard and I know you have dealt with more than your fair share. :( I'm so glad that you have had quilting and those of us who do band together and support each other!

    I struggle with major depression. I have for as long as I can remember. But these last several years that I have been quilting have been much better for me. Creativity is so healing.

    Thank you for adding your thoughts to this discussion and thank you for encouraging everyone to band together instead of tearing each other down. Many hugs to you!

    Jennifer :) a.k.a That Girl...

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  41. Amen! People come to quilting, sewing, crafting, etc. for different reasons and they get different things out of it. It doesn't matter if your creation is technically perfect - what matters is whether it is perfect enough for you. I am surprised and taken aback by the venom that some people seem to have for things that are really none of their business. Thumper's wisdom can go a long way here. Thank goodness that I feel those voices are in the minority and easily ignored. Thank you for your post and for opening your heart.

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  42. You totally ROCK!!!!!! A million THANK YOUS to you!!!!!! I love your blog and I love the brief look into your reality - many of us have no idea what your reality is like but we are all here to support & follow you along this journey. I am so HAPPY that I found your blog. Being 'real' is the only way to be for me. Excellent post!!!!!

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  43. Thank YOU for putting your two cents out here for all the internet to see! It takes a brave person to speak their true mind, and to lay it all out there. Thanks for sharing :)

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  44. So very well written! I am all for the drama-free concept and supporting each other! You come across as such strong person and one who I know has lots to teach! I am really enjoying your classess and picking up gems of info to help shape me as a quilter. I also wanted to share that I quilt as an escape or stress relief too. Life is too short to spend time on things (like the debate you referred to) that are silly. *HUGS!*

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  45. The loss of a child always resonates with me. My youngest son died two years ago from metastisized cancer. I have been quilting for a long time. My grief is a journey that I continue on. It ebbs, flows, and changes. My quilting endeavors and my quilting friends help to make that journey easier.

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  46. A quilt is an expression of love from one person to another, just like a hand written letter or a postcard. For someone else to say your love isn't good enough isn't in their job description!!!

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  47. I am a newbie at this quilting thing. I am not creative, not great with color schemes, not very talented, but you inspire me to make prettier quilts. I am enjoying your "quilt-a-long" and know that I will learn something from you to pass on in my quilts to those I love. Thank you!

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  48. Hello Rebecca! Thank you for sharing your thoughts - you have it so right! I believe for most of us sewing and blogging is the time to have joyful, happy thoughts and to forget those everyday difficulties! So lets keep it that way! Enjoy sewing and writing happy things to our friends to read and give supportive and joyful feedback about their works and writing!
    Sunny spring wishes from Crete!!! Teje

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  49. Thank you for sharing all your beautiful quilts and for the great 'Quilt Class'! Teje

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  50. Bec, Thanks for adding your two cents! As you know, I teach sewing and quilting classes and I am not a very strict traditionalist when it comes to that. I had a 9 year old student who's quilt was VERY wonky, so much that she had to rip some of it out, but when she put it on the design wall and saw how crooked it was she said "That's Ok, it's just my first quilt" and I really hope she is able to make 100s more in the future and look back and consider her not so perfect quilt a beginning of a learning process. I wish we could all be so free of constraints about it being "perfect" I was a little worried when I first heard about the dumbing down quilting discussion that maybe that's what I'm doing when I teach beginners, but it's not. I think it's just a different approach. I've even had to re-learn some of the "rules" so that I can break them (I have a rule breaking quilts book club) Sorry to go on and on. I appreciate you being honest and open in your posts and thanks so much for your awesome Quilts 101 posts. I know that is a ton of work and it's really fabulous.

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  51. Thank you so much for sharing this post. I'm new to the blogging world and it was great to read a this post. Thank you for being honest and open, it warmed my heart!

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  52. I often wonder what it is about our culture that makes us so competitive. There is room in this world for all of us. Your post was great food for thought. I hope that those of us in blogland will be more accepting and less critical of those whose ideas are different from our own. Different is NOT wrong - just different. Keep up the good work. I love following your blog and the tremendous creativity and effort that goes into it.

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  53. Thank you for all your quilt lessons I enjoy reading your blog. Sending hugs and prayers

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  54. Great post and a bug hug to you for sharing and giving us your 75 cents.

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  55. My blood started boiling after I started to read someone's post about how quilting is being dumbed down. I am trying to eliminate stress in my life, so I didn't read the rest of it or any other posts on the subject. Thank you for expressing my feelings on the subject so eloquently. Quilting is one of the best things I do in my life. It gives me a way to practice my art in a practical way. It gives me a way to help others, one quilt at a time. I fills my days with peace and joy. I am sorry life has been so difficult for you, but I am glad you have found quilting to help you through. Thank you for everything you do for the rest of us.

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  56. I couldn't agree more with what you said!! I don't understand why the endless debate and drama over something that really doesn't matter when there is real grief and hurt and pain in the world that really does matter.

    I'm also the type to smile nicely and then go home for a huge debrief! I loved that little line in your post.

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  57. Thanks for sharing this with us.
    I love your lessons.

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  58. My feelings exactly...I have enough "drama" in my life; I don't need any from "quilting". To me, it's just another way that woman use to "blow out someone elses light so that theirs seems brighter". And that is not something that I get behind. So, thanks for your input. Hope your response resonates within this community. Hugs from Arizona!

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  59. What a wonderful thoughtful post! Thanks for making an honest and heartfelt contribution to this debate. It's so interesting reading what everyone thinks. I agree that we cannot know what is going on in the life of someone we only know online. And as for the dumbing down debate - aren't we all just trying to have fun?

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  60. Beautiful well written post!

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  61. hear, hear Rebecca. Quilting is therapy in one form or another for most quilters that I know. You've got a wonderful attitude about it, and your blog. I hope you find your peace. I laid out some authentic thoughts on my blog, but I'm not wading into controversy (especially the mod vs.trad one!). Life is short and I don't want to give the meanies any air time!

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  62. I have just found you Rebecca. I now I have fallen in love with you. I too have lost my youngest son. He was murdered when he was just 19. So I grieve with you and every woman who have lost a child, it hurts and always will.
    I am in my fifties, and am teaching my self how to quilt thru wonderful blogs as yours. Just remember how much you help me and give a bright light to me and other out here in the world. I use you and other ladies here in blog land as my escape from pain....
    One thing I would like to share...
    National Geographic said that all women are really sisters. We all share a single gene. Each and everyone one of us. Men cant say that. But every single woman on earth shares a gene. GOD MADE US SISTERS FOR A REASON LADIES!

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  63. Thank you for being real...I agree with everything that you said...not all of us (meaning me) in blogland have a degree in design or color but still have a passion for fabric and quilting and our opinion of a beautiful quilt may be different than someone else...
    I delivered premature twins at 28wks after years of infertility..it was a horrible, terrifying pregnancy..I was on bedrest for 14 weeks before they were delivered. They are now 14 years old and healthy through the Glory of God...but still to this day I have a hard time going to a baby shower, finding out a friend is pregnant when they didn't 'expect' to and just the longing still in my heart to get pregnant on my own, have a healthy baby and holding a baby right after the birth. The sadness will always be there, but over time it will be replaced by more happy than sad...I pray for you and keep sewing and blogging, it is a great escape...quilting is something in my world that I do have control of. Lisa in Texas

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  64. I agree whole heartedly! There are too many people being critical or judging. Everyone has the right to create and be happy no matter what the creation or how it turns out. If it makes someone happy then let them experiment with a hobby or craft. Life is hard and we should try to make it easier on people not worse. I'm glad you took the time to voice your opinion!

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  65. Exactly!!!!! All this debate has just made me more determined to do what I want to do. Everyone should just do what they enjoy no matter how simple or complex.

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  66. Thank you for sharing some of the same fears that I have.

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  67. Your 2 cents worth is priceless...go girl! The hardest thing for most people is to be real and live the life they were born to achieve. Your strength, honesty and openess is a healing to all you reach out and touch....thankyou Cherrie x

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  68. Thank you for this post. For sharing some of who you are. I appreciate it more than you probably will ever know. Awesome quilts intimidate me but not enough so that I won't give it a whirl , so I am working on 2 of my firsts. So I think it would be better to say that awesome quilts inspire me...even the novice sewer that I am, I appreciate them. I don't have the time of inclination to fret over perfect seams/technique but I appreciate it. I just want to read blogs about sewing and sew when I can. It makes me happy and I refuse to let the petty discussions about "good enough" steal my joy.
    I love learning here, so thanks for the opportunity!

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  69. I just stumbled upon your blog and read this post. THANK YOU! Your words are so true and it is so refreshing to hear someone else be open and honest.

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